Parents Of Star Kids: “What Do We Do Now?”
The following is an excerpt from a dialogue I had with a parent
whose teenager was just starting to have to deal with his paranormal
abilities, and was still deeply in denial of Star Visitor reality.
And, like most teens, this teen was wanting to safely hide out in
the conventionality of how regular people saw the world. The
presenting issue was that he saw “furniture” in his room where there
was none. And he was resistant to accepting the reality of
ESP/psychic abilities which his 9-year-old younger sister and his
mother had already long since calmly accepted as part of their
The mother wrote about how Jeremy came to her room at night, panicky
because he saw furniture there which should not have been there. He
further panicked when his mother told him that she saw no furniture
there. The mother wondered if Jeremy’s nocturnal fear was an example
of the psychological disorder called Night Terror.
I answered her as
“Jeremy is _not_ suffering from clinical Night Terror Disorder.
“It looks like the Star Visitors have decided that it is time to
move Jeremy past his denial, that we spoke of in our last e-mail.
Probably because they know that you are now in communication with
me, and therefore there is an avenue of informed interpretation you
have access to in order to make sense of what is happening for
Jeremy. Though he was frightened, he is paying attention to the
anomalies, and that is good.
“What happened was that the Star Visitors (most likely those from
the Zeta Reticuli star system) decided to administer a little
reality consciousness-expanding exercise for Jeremy. They disguised
themselves (influenced Jeremy's mind to see them as) items of
furniture in his bedroom. I would venture to guess that even the
"furniture" moved a little on its own. The real furniture you own
had not yet arrived with the movers. Jeremy therefore was faced with
a jolting experience of "cognitive dissonance", seeing with his own
eyes something that "cannot be". This panicked him and he came to
you. Well and good. The Star Visitors have softened up his
intellectual beachhead, so that he is now more ready to accept what
you have to say about what is going on in paranormal/non-ordinary
reality. He knows that the "ordinary reality" he was sold in school
no longer fully applies.
“You can therefore provide Jeremy now with both information and
reassurance. You might say something like this to Jeremy:
(Mother): "Jeremy, what you experienced the other night was... (fill
in with my explanation above). The reason you had that experience
was because you were being stubborn and not accepting that there are
paranormal realities that happen to people regularly. Now that you
have had a direct experience of such paranormal reality, you are
more ready to accept that such is real. You have had a visit from
the Star Visitors. They are real. They are friendly and not here to
harm you. You do not need to be afraid of them, but you do need to
be respectful, and even to open your mind to learn what they came
here to show you and tell you. As you decide to be brave and not
afraid, they can drop the disguises, and begin to let you see them
as they actually look like. They will most probably look like one of
the Visitor types shown at:
“Do not panic nor be spooked when they show themselves. An
individual visit like this is a great privilege. Many people would
pay any amount of money to have such a visit.
“Your sister is a Star Kid and has advanced abilities due to either
a Star Visitor contact, or their genetic upgrading of my ovum during
a visit to me before she was born.
“Now it is your turn to wake up to not only the advanced abilities
which are laying dormant within you, but also to the fact that you
are in contact with persons from the stars.
“I, your mother, am a Star Seed. I am proud of it. You do not see me
afraid. You are a growing 14-year-old teenage boy. You like to think
of yourself as brave and strong, and you are.
“Replace your fear with wonder and curiosity, and a readiness to
launch into this new and most exciting phase of your growing up! And
I am with you all the way in this, Jeremy.
“We are the new generation, of Star Seeds and Star Kids, you and I
and your sister. Let's be proud, aware, and get ourselves ready for
the important days ahead, where we can bring these extra gifts to
good use for the folks around us."
The mother wrote me back gratefully that she was going to take that
approach with her son. This vignette illustrates the new kind of
parenting that today’s moms and dads need to prepare themselves to
do to be relevant to today’s Star Kids.
Being a parent to a Star Kid can seem daunting. There are a number
of things that parents of Star Kids need to keep in mind. It may
seem overwhelming at the early stages, but don’t worry. Very many
other parents of Star Kids have succeeded in raising wonderful
children, even without the resources that are becoming available
Obviously you want to be a good parent to your Star Kid or you would
not be reading this book. So, already you have one of the most
fundamentally necessary qualities in a parent – wanting to help.
There are of course numerous and various ways that a parent can help
their son or daughter reach their full potential as a Star Kid. In
this chapter we ill examine a number of these ways. So, sit back,
take a deep breath, and relax. You and your Star Kid will do just
One of the first things that a parent of a Star Kid needs to do is
settle into the Star Visitor reality yourself. For those parents who
have not had a personal experience with a UFO sighting, or a close
encounter with a Star Visitor, these parents will need to do a good
amount of self-education. It is a general rule of parenting that you
are going to be much more effective if you are equipped and prepare
yourself for the job.
Unfortunately, it has not been easy to get a good, solid, reliable
education about the UFO phenomenon and Star Visitor contact. This
whole subject has been subjected to the largest, longest, most
prodigiously-financed cover-up in human history. Not only have the
wraps been thrown over the subject, but there has been an enormous
amount of deliberately-false and distorted stories put out to the
public through magazine articles, books, newspaper stories,
television programs and Hollywood movies, as well as the planting of
lying lectures and “UFO experts” at UFO conferences and club
meetings. So, how is a parent to know whom to believe and what to
The people operating the UFO Cover-Up operation have over the last
few decades pretty much given up on the idea of trying to convince
the public that UFOs don’t exist. There are now simply too many
credible reports for that to work much any more. So instead, the
operatives of the Cabal behind the UFO Cover-Up have focused their
efforts on trying to “spin” the phenomenon. Their fear-propaganda
line “spin” is that, okay, so maybe the Star Visitors are real, but
they are “evil, mean invaders”.
So, one way for a parent to cut through the sea of such
disinformation and fear-based propaganda is to analyze whether a
given UFO presentation is trying to convey the false impression that
the Star Visitors are evil or mean or invaders. If it is, then you
are looking at or hearing false propaganda. How do you know it’s
false? Because the information in Chapter Seven laid out the
thorough, extensive professional research findings about who the
Star Visitors really are and why they have decided to be present
A parent can educate themselves with the other genuine valid
information which is also available. A number of former military,
intelligence, government and government contractor persons have
decided to go public with what they know from their former positions
within “sensitive” projects.
These genuine, well-motivated,
public-spirited government insiders include:
US Air Force Colonel Wendelle Stevens;
Site S-4 (Nellis Air Force Base) physicist Robert
team leader of the National Security Council’s Special
Studies Group (tasked to manage Star Visitor information), Colonel
Michael Wolf Kruvant, MD, Ph.D., Sc.D.;
US Air Force leader of
Project Pounce, Colonel Steve Wilson;
US Army Command Sergeant-Major
Robert O. Dean;
US Air Force/National Security Agency Tech Sergeant
US Army Staff Sergeant Clifford Stone;
Canaveral Shuttle Launch Officer Clark McClelland;
Astronaut Edgar Mitchell.
There are a number also of truthful civilian behavioral science
research professionals who have amassed substantial information
about the Star Visitors from working professionally with
experiencers of contacts with these Visitors.
As a result of such
professional interviews, counseling, hypnotic examinations, and
informational exchanges at professional meetings, these therapists
and other behavioral-science professionals are in a position to set
forth their findings about the Star Visitors, and have done so in
lectures, articles and books.
These genuine, truth-telling
University of Wyoming emeritus Psychology
Professor R. Leo Sprinkle, Ph.D.,
the late Harvard University
Psychiatry Professor John Mack,
former Acting Surgeon-General of
Finland Rauni-Leena Luukanen-Kilde, MD,
Dr. Gilda Barbosa de Moura,
former National University Psychology Department Chairman and
California State University, Sacramento
Lecturer Richard J. Boylan,
Ph.D. (the author),
the following additional
Dr. Ruth Hover, Ph.D., LCSW,
Lamb, M.S., LMFT,
Mary Rodwell, RN,
the late Constance Clear, LCSW,
Gloria Hawker, CHT,
Marian MacNeil, CHT,
scores of other
clinicians of the Academy of Clinical Close Encounter Therapists,
Inc. and others.
These individuals have the advanced education, clinical training,
experience and skills to differentiate truth from lying or delusion,
to interview experiencers and obtain accurate information without
distorting, or leading the witness, or imposing their own views on
the client. Parents can take the findings of these professionals to
the bank. And they unanimously find no evidence for the “evil mean
invader” propaganda scenario painted by the disinformation artists
planted throughout the ufology field.
Such planted operatives are working secretly for the Cabal
conducting the UFO Cover-Up, and some of them are misusing their
former history of government service to appear qualified when they
spin their propaganda tales of fear. Again, “By their fruits shall
you know them.” If the source you read/hear is peddling anti-“alien”
fear, think: disinformation.
There is an additional factor complicating the task of a parent
educating themself about Star Visitor reality. This third factor is
the considerable number of self-appointed and unqualified civilian
“UFO experts”, as well as metaphysical “channelers” of loquacious
supposed “star beings”.
The self-appointed civilian “experts” are fairly easy to evaluate.
Their information is as good as their research professionalism and
technique. You just don’t go into a phone booth and come out a “UFO
expert”, much less competent to deal with the psychological
variables of professional consultation with persons who report an
encounter with a Star Visitor.
It takes formal clinical education,
training and experience in research methodology to do reliable,
expert research you can trust. And good research takes patient,
hard, and often long work. In the domain of experiencer encounters,
only behavioral scientist professionals have the training and
professional skills to work with such experiencers without
traumatizing them, or causing distortion in the experiencer’s recall
by injecting interviewer bias. This is specially important when
hypnosis is utilized to assist recall of events stored in
The above extended critique was necessary because so many amateurs
operate in this field, either blissfully ignorant of what they do
not know, or egotistical enough to assume a competency that they are
too often lacking. And these amateurs generate a disproportionate
amount of the reports that the public sees.
The “channelers” are a more difficult “briar patch”. In brief, there
are genuine channelers and fake or self-deluded “channelers”.
The genuine channelers are picking up on messages and information
from a person not present in the flesh. The communication source may
be a deceased human, a human physically located at a distance, a
disincarnate spirit, or, of relevance to us, an actual Star Visitor.
Just because a “channeler” claims that she is bringing through a
message from some “star commander” doesn’t mean that it is true. She
could be bringing through: her playful dead aunt who is into
mediumship, a Brazilian Santeria spiritualist who is sending out
thoughts about the star beings, a lower-level consciousness floating
in the cosmic void that feels like messing with this Earthling’s
mind, or whatever.
Discerning a genuine channel of Star Visitor information, (yes,
there are a few), is a science and an art. One criterion of
genuineness is the humility and self-effacement of the person
serving as the channel. Another criterion is the factor that Star
Visitors are not at any human’s back and call. A genuine channel is
not a Star Visitor ATM.
Yet another criterion is money. Be wary of “channels” who want money
for supposedly conveying Star Visitor messages. Real channels
understand that they are of service. Yet another way to discern is
the content of the supposed Star Visitor message. Is the language
frank, direct, focused on the information to be conveyed, implicitly
humble, and concerned about Earth’s wellbeing? These are attributes
of genuine Star Visitor messages.
The false channelings tend often to be in language that is Baroque
(if not Rococco), or florid, or New Age-y pseudo-spiritual, wordy,
circum-loquacious, vague, more pep-talk than information-laden; and
tends to identify the supposed Star Visitor by names drawn from
Greco-Roman mythology, science-fiction novels, supposed archangelic
choirs, or male-believe extraterrestrial governmental organizations
such as the ubiquitous but spurious “Ashtar Command”.
Genuine Star Visitor communication tends to be to-the-point,
compact, focused about important matters (as distinguished from
self-importance -a sure sign of false “channeling”), matter-of-fact,
delivered with generosity of spirit, with more of a Taoist or
Zen-like flavor than the judgmental moralisms and theatricality of
Despite the deliberately-sown mine field of disinformation and
quackery, there are
enough real resources out there to enable any parent of good will
and motivation to educate themselves and their Star Kid enough to have
well acquitted themselves of their responsibility to be not only a
good parent, but a tutor in the transition from Fourth World to
At the risk of immodesty, I can identify one such unimpeachable
source of good, free, disinformation-free data as being my website:
www.drboylan.com . Parents should read it all to comprehensively
educate themselves to be of maximum help to their growing Star Kid.
Other good sources are the following websites: researcher Paola
http://utenti.lycos.it/paolaharris/english.htm, Star Seed
therapist Mary Rodwell, RN’s
http://members.iinet.net.au/~starline/index.html, and investigator
In Appendix B of this book parents may find additional informational
Do’s And Don’ts Of Parenting A Star Kid
Now to get down to some specifics of parenting your Star Kids.
One task of the parent of a Star Kid is to inform yourself about the
various characteristics and gifts of Star Kids. Some special
abilities are hard to miss -like telekinesis or levitation. Others
are more subtle. The point of a parent knowing the various potential
abilities Star Kids may have is to be aware when your Star Kid
begins to manifest such an ability. Realize, however, that each Star
Kid will not manifest all the special abilities. And it is certainly
to be avoided to be a Star Kid “Stage Mother”, trying to push your
child into displaying abilities which they may not have, or may not
have developed yet.
Another task of a Star Kid parent is to get clear about whether you
yourself are a Star Seed adult. Mind you, it is not necessary that
you be a Star Seed adult in order to rear a Star Kid properly. But
it is quite helpful to be quite clear about whether you are a Star
Seed or not. If you are great! Then you have insider insight into
the special world your Star Kid must navigate. Your gifts will
enable you to better educate your Star Kid in the exercise of his or
her abilities. And, you will serve as a role model to your Star Kid.
If you are not an adult Star Seed, you can still do a fine job of
parenting your Star Kid. What they need the most from you, you can
give anyway: acceptance, understanding, encouragement, protective
watchfulness, and readiness to grow and learn along with them.
As a parent one of the things you can give your Star Kid is
something which every parent should give their child, but which too
many parents do not. The reality of the metaphysical and psychic
realms is an important insight for your child. If he or she is a
Star Kid, it is especially important that they have validation from
you about these realms, particularly since the dominant culture
tends to question or ridicule these areas of reality – areas in
which your child will have important life experiences.
It should go without saying that the parent of a Star Kid needs to
endorse the reality of Star Visitor contacts which a child may have.
And a parent needs to provide reassurance, especially to a small
child, about Star Visitor contacts. The very young ones may
misunderstand Star Visitor bedroom visits as “ghosts” or “goblins”,
etc. You as a parent can help the child accept the Visitors calmly
and matter-of-factly, perhaps by saying something along the lines
of: “Some children are fortunate enough to have special Visitors
from the stars at night.” Thus, you can help our child look forward
to these encounters as interesting and helpful.
It is decidedly unhelpful to try to dissemble genuine Star Visitor
contacts as “the tooth fairy” or “just a dream”. Star Kids need to
learn early that a good percentage of the productive time they spend
is not only during waking hours, but also during the night when it
seems that they are just sleeping. Out-of-body experiences,
nighttime encounters, and downloading of important information into
the child’s mind during rest are only some of the significant
activities which can take place at night.
A parent needs also not to underestimate their Star Kid. With some
Star Kids this may seem hard to do. Certain Star Kids are so
dazzling in their psychic abilities that underestimating them never
comes to a parent’s mind. But other parents may find their Star Kid
low-keyed about any abilities they have, and shy or reluctant to
share what they can do.
A proper parental attitude is to be open and
alert to indications about your child’s abilities, but not pushy or
invasive or inquisitorial about what the child can do. If your Star
Kid is secure and snug in their relationship with you the parent,
they will let you know what they can do in the proper time. The
child’s own appropriate pride and desire to share will work their
A great help you can give your Star Kid is to expose them to other
Star Kids. There is an intrinsic comraderie that animates Star Kids
who have an opportunity to meet and mingle with each other. Star
Kids benefit greatly from meeting other Star Kids, hearing from
them, and seeing them in action. Star Kids form mutual role models
for each other.
Note, however, that just because two children are
Star Kids does not guarantee that they will hit it off with each
other. It is more likely, because of the Star Kid bond. But it is
not guaranteed. Human factors like personality mesh, tempo,
respective maturational development, and other intangible
“chemistry” factors exist in the real world of Star Kids as with
As with any child, a parent does well to feed the mind of a Star Kid
with good literature. But in the case of a Star Kid, “literature”
takes on a special meaning. Besides the educational and cultural
classics that all children can benefit from, a Star Kid parent does
well to expose her child to specialized literature on psychic
abilities, and genuine information on Star Kids. Appendix C of this
book contains some suggested such readings.
When it comes to getting toys for your Star Kid, shop thoughtfully
for the kind of play objects which help him or her grow in their
advanced awareness and their special gifts. Many parents select the
kinds of toys for their children which help promote their mental
development through basic skills like matching shapes or increasing
the facility of eye-hand coordination.
But the parents of a Star Kid
would do well to select play objects that foster development of
psychic abilities, too. To be sure, in today’s world, it is not
readily possible to go down to Toys-R-Us and pull a
psychic-development toy off the shelf. But with some ingenuity, it
is possible to upgrade certain games into ones which help grow the
Star Kid’s advanced abilities. Even such mundane things as a deck of
playing cards can be turned into a “clairvoyant deck”, where the
game is to “see” what the next face-down card will be when it is
Or one of those small, light boats that are supposed to
be propelled across a basin of water by introducing into its
propulsion chamber a mixture of baking soda and vinegar, to give it
fizz power. Instead, your Star Kid can be invited to play with
making the boat move across the water without the fizz mixture, by
mental concentration only.
An excellent example of a Star Kids game is the martial arts game
arena called DragonSport©. DragonSport is based on the martial art
Jojutsu, used by Japanese warriors who armed themselves only with a
short stick. This game is like the training sport in the Star Wars
movie, where Luke Skywalker had practice at striking levitating
energy orbs with his light sabre before they dodged and sent out a
punishing electrical bolt.
Inventors Alysn Hassenforder and Paul Russell of Glenwood Springs,
Colorado describe DragonSport© this way. The player stands in the
middle of a small arena surrounded by three pillars. The pillars
take turns lighting up briefly in a random sequence. The challenge
is to tap one of the pillars with a baton when it lights up briefly
before it goes out. As the player develops skill, the pace of the
lighting-up is quickened and the duration of the lit pillar is
shortened. Alysn says that she can tell the Star Kids, because after
they get bored with the quickened pace, they graduate to wanting to
play blindfolded! You can learn more about DragonSport© at
The secret here in parenting and toy choices is to keep these toys
as play and not to turn them into work. When you are a Star Kid,
developing these abilities should be fun. There will be plenty of
time later for working with these gifts in a highly-disciplined,
Star Kids like to socialize with other Star Kids, and they need this
socialization, even though a Star Kid may not know this at a given
time, particularly if they have not been previously exposed to an
“Awake” Star Kid. A thoughtful parent will recognize this need, and
create such socialization opportunities.
How does a parent find other Star Kids? In some cases your Star Kid
is already aware of other similar such children at school, or
somewhere in the neighborhood, even though the Star Kid may not
label them as such. In other cases an enterprising parent may need
to “advertise” for other Star Kids by putting a low-key “ad” or
notice in their parent organization newsletter, or putting out the
word at parent gatherings, that they would like to talk with other
parents who notice unusual mental or psychic abilities in their
child, and to “compare notes”.
Parents of Star Kids can create socialization opportunities by
starting a Star Kid play group, something like a baby-sitting
cooperative, where parents take turns hosting such gatherings, or
leading field trips to fun, educational places, or even locales of
Any good parent gives attention to their child’s spiritual
development. With a Star Kid, it is important to let your child
develop a spirituality which has integrity for your child. In many
cases a Star Kid will already have an implicit spiritual
orientation, even though, depending on their age, they may not have
articulated it or organized it yet.
In such situations the parent’s
role is not to interfere with such choices, but rather to gently
foster such self-development. In other cases the parent can make a
contribution by leading by example, such as by observing a time for
meditation, or by doing some Earth energy work where your child can
observe this, or even be invited to join in.
And depending on
circumstances, a parent can share with their child some readings
from spiritual and metaphysical classics, such as:
Lao Tzu’s Tao Te Ching,
Pierre Teilhard de Chardin’s The Phenomenon of Man,
Sermon On the Mount,
Frank Water’s The Book of the Hopi,
Capra’s The Tao of Physics,
Philip Kapleau Roshi’s The Three
Pillars of Zen.
Any good parent spends some time looking for good external role
models for their children. With Star Kids, this need for appropriate
role models is especially important during these critical transition
times between materialistic, outgoing Fourth World society and
incoming, cosmic-minded Fifth World society.
Children generally benefit from a mix of adult role models and
role-model children somewhat older than themselves or their own age.
As the few adult Star Seeds, including celebrities, who have come
out of the closet publicly about their Star Visitor contact are
joined by yet more, and as even Star Kids begin to declare
themselves publicly in radio, newspaper and television interviews,
there will be additional role models for Star Kids.
As with any role
model, the parent will want to place emphasis on the exemplary
behavior of the role model, and put into proper context any human
failings the Star Seed or Star Kid has. Likewise, parents will want
to avoid placing over-emphasis on the fame aspect of any celebrities
who come out. And as the Star Kid (and adult Star Seed) phenomenon
becomes widely recognized and accepted in society, it will become
even easier to find other, more accessible role models in one’s own
Being a Star Kid in contemporary society is not guaranteed to be
easy. Therefore, many parents will find it necessary to advocate for
their Star Kid at school and in group organizations like Boy Scouts
or Girl Scouts. Other children are quick to notice differences in a
child, and children sometimes are not very kind in the way they
comment on, or deal with, those noticed differences. So, sometimes
parental advocacy will take the form of talking with the teacher or
group leader about making sure that your Star Kid is not picked on,
socially ostracized, or made the butt of jokes. Star Kids have
In other cases advocacy may take the form of persuading school
officials to create a special curriculum for your Star Kid and the
other Star Kids in the school. Existing U.S. law requires the school
to give your child an “appropriate education” which attends to the
child’s “special needs”. While this legislation has been used in the
past to assist parents of children with handicaps to get proper
schooling, the parents of today’s Star Kids are going to need to
band together and militate for curriculum reform and appropriate
curriculum for their Star Kids.
It may become useful to break new
ground in utilizing tools like the Individualized Educational Plan
(IEP), which requires the school to develop a plan that actually
works to meet your child’s “special educational needs”. Parents can
use the child’s entitlement by law to a Free Appropriate Public
Education (FAPE) to insist that the school accommodate to his
“disability” of trying to operate as a Star Kid in a learning
environment (classroom) designed for regular human children.
may try using the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA)
to advocate for “special accommodation” to their child’s different
learning styles. They may use the No Child Left Behind Act to argue
for legally-required education strategies that work for their Star
Kid. Parents can get tough and cite Section 504, a civil rights act
which prohibits discrimination against a child with different
As a former school principal, I can assure you that most schools are
not going to do it for you automatically. On the other hand, most
educational advancement has come from parents exercising their
influence to make sure that school works for their child, and that
the child does not become bored and drop out due to the school’s
Similarly, parent power is needed to wake up youth group leaders
that the same old activities of teaching kids to tie square knots,
or flower arranging, is not going to be responsive to who today’s
Star Kids are. Organizations change when parents make no other
alternative feasible, and when parents pitch in to help create the
A don’t for parents of Star Kids. Don’t let your child’s school or
pediatrician mislabel him or her as having Attention-Deficit
Disorder (ADD), Hyperactivity Disorder (HD), a Learning Disorder
(LD), Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID), Autism, or another
mental problem or psychiatric condition just because your child is a
Star Kid. Being a Star Kid is not a disease.
A lot of the mislabeling comes from ignorance and fear of someone
different. Can a Ph.D. psychologist be ignorant? Yes, if I has to do
with the Star Kid phenomenon, and the psychologist has not educated
him/herself about it. Can an MD psychiatrist or pediatrician be
mistaken? Yes, if it has to do with looking at the different
behaviors or mental profile of a Star Kid, and deciding that those
“exotic” behaviors sound like some aberration they learned about in
Are there Star Kids who also happen to have dyslexia, or childhood
schizophrenia, or behavioral tics? Yes. But most Star Kids do not
suffer from Attention Deficit Disorder, (contrary to some of the
urban myths which can be found on the Internet or in certain books.)
If a Star Kid is having trouble paying attention in school, it is
much more likely to have to do with the fact that the teacher or the
subject material is so plodding, or so obvious, or so irrelevant, or
so wrong, that the child cannot be reasonably be expected to pay
continual attention to such a dysfunctional presentation. If a Star
Kid seems restless much of the time, it is more likely to be the
case that they find their learning environment boring or
non-stimulating. Put a race horse in a tightly-confining stall and
yes, he’ll kick out the boards and run free.
If you as a parent suspects that your Star Kid is being mislabeled,
arm yourself with information and advocate for your child.
Information about genuine diagnostic criteria for ADD, HD, LD, DID,
etc. is found in the DSM-4, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of
The DSM-4 is available in libraries and on the
Internet’s World-Wide Web. The Academy of Clinical Close Encounter
Therapists, Inc. has member therapists in almost every state and
some foreign countries, who are aware of the transformations that
people undergo as a result of Star Visitor contact. These therapists
can provide professional consultation about your child’s basic
psychological normalcy within the context of his being a Star Kid.
Earlier we spoke about your Star Kid’s spirituality. Hand-in-hand
with promoting your Star Kid’s developing their own spirituality is
a parent’s role in providing your Star Kid with a good moral
Certain fundamental values are honored across cultures, and can
safely be assumed to be a universal part of healthy human
consciousness. These include such things as truthfulness in one’s
dealings with others, reasonable respect for another’s property, and
avoiding violent behaviors in daily situations. An excellent primer
on moral values is to be found in the United Nations Declaration of
Universal Human Rights. This may be found at:
And of course along with rights come responsibilities. Parents can
help their Star Kid hone his/her sense of moral responsibility by
setting a good example, and by pointing out and endorsing examples
of good moral responsibility-taking that occur in the community.
Examples of such would include taking your Star Kid along with you
when you work on a drive to collect clothing and supplies for
earthquake victims, or showing up at a City Council meeting to
support more low-income housing being made available in your
A thoughtful parent also attunes to their Star Kid’s need for an
“integrated” environment. Here what is being referred to is helping
create a personal “world” for your Star Kid where there is room for
their special abilities and awarenesses to be recognized, validated,
and grow, while at the same time trying to weave all that as
seamlessly as possible into the more ordinary and mundane elements
of daily living, such as taking out the trash, or going swimming.
When the Star Kid feels like there is a smooth flow between the
world of psychic gifts in operation and ordinary daily living, then
the parent has succeeded in reducing the risk that the Star Kid will
see himself as a freak or an oddball.
On the other hand, a good parent will see to it that their Star Kid
has those specialized developmental experiences that provide special
learning, skill development, and growth in awareness. Obvious
examples of such specialized experiences are a Star Kids Project©
Workshop or the Star Kids Project Summer Camp.
Being a Star Kid should not be allowed to become all work and no
play. Part of being a well-rounded parent of a Star Kid is
organizing an occasional Star Kids party. What goes on at Star kids
parties? Well, a good few rounds of DragonSport© certainly has it
all over a game of Pin the Tail On the Donkey. But in a pinch, a
parent on a budget might update this old blindfolded challenge by
introducing a timing element, since many Star Kids are going to be
able to “sense” where the poster donkey is in the first place, using
clairvoyance. And instead of bobbing for apples, a contest could be
made over making an apple move across the bucket. Your Star Kids can
come up with other ideas, too.
As Star Kids move into the dating years, the thoughtful parent will
foster their Star Kid’s developing friendships with other Star Kids.
Most relationships work out better where the partners are more
closely matched in certain critical areas. And certainly the ability
of the potential future partner to share your Star Kid’s advanced
world is one such critical element. Parents are aware that from
dating eventually ensue their future son-in-law or daughter-in-law.
And future grandchildren are much more likely to be Star Kids with
both of their parents being Star Seeds.
Start early to teach your Star Kid the New Facts of Life. These New
Facts of Life which have important relevance for your Star Kid
include the following: 1) the existence of a highly-organized,
politically-powerful and well-financed UFO Cover-Up; 2) the
concomitant ridicule of and suppression of genuine information about
the contact of Star Visitors with people on Earth; and 3) the
black-out of information about the emerging Star Kids phenomenon.
Your Star Kid does best to hear these New Facts of Life from their
parent, and not to have to learn it on street corners.
An additional Fact of Life for your Star Kid is possible seduction
to join, or kidnapping by, operatives of the Cabal which also
orchestrates the UFO Cover-Up. The Cabal is interested in these “psi
children”, and seeks to try to convince them to come work for the
Cabal, (which disguises itself as legitimate branches of government
or think tanks or other civilian contractors with ties to military
or intelligence units.)
Where persuasion has not been successful,
kidnappings have sometimes occurred. While a parent does not want to
make their Star Kid paranoid, nevertheless, inculcating a certain
amount of prudent awareness and circumspection certainly gives your
child a heads-up on possible future pitfalls.
As your Star Kid grows older, they will naturally want more privacy
about their life, personal space and possessions. A good parent
respects their growing child’s need for privacy. After all, this is
one of the tools by which a child learns to define him or herself as
separate and distinct from their parents. And yet a parent cannot
totally tune out as to what their child is up to.
A prudent general
awareness is certainly in order. And if tell-tale warning signs
emerge of likely drug use, planned dating of someone met on the
Internet, etc., the prudent parent will step forward and tell their
Star Kid that it is time to talk and share what’s going on, with the
parent laying out openly what is their basis for concern.
Let your Star Kid get as much education as they want and need. It
may be for many Star Kids that it is only in a decent college or
graduate school that the Star Kid finds for the first time in their
life an arena of formal education which does not insult their
intelligence. Put in more positive terms, the more open learning
structure of universities and graduate schools, with their cafeteria
of subject choices and difficulty levels, allows the Star Kid to be
all that she or he can be. This is not to say that there are not
some colleges which are woefully unprepared to meet the needs of a
Star Kid. But a resourceful Star Kid has a better chance at the
university or graduate school level to fashion the comprehensive
education needed for preparation for life and mission.
Help your Star Kid think about career choices that are compatible
with the Star Kid’s identity and particular array of special
abilities. But the parent must also help the Star Kid recognize that
they have to distinguish in many cases between the work that is
going to constitute the Star Kid’s “day job” and the activity which
will be the Star Kid’s particular mission in this lifetime.
Especially during this time of awkward transition from limited
Fourth World society to dawning Fifth World society, it is not going
to be possible for all the Star Kids to make their living doing
their special abilities or following their particular mission. It is
especially helpful if the parent can validate by their own example
the walking-two-trails approach of doing their “day job”, while
making time elsewhere to gift society with their special abilities.
And last but not least, look forward as a hard-working parent to the
joys of watching a new crop of Star Kids come in who will be your
grandchildren. If the current generation of Star Kids is any
indication, the new crop will be even more spectacular than their
parents were in their consciousness, awareness, abilities and
largeness of heart.
May we all live to see that grand time.
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