by Mark Sircus
Not only have we lost the key it seems like we never had it.
As a race we fail miserably with listening and that means we fail miserably with life, with love, communication, with health, politics, education and so on.
We never have peace, not
really, because we never learned to listen, though in our arrogance
we think we listen when we do not, not on a deep level of being.
To listen is to
We cannot change
We need to
change just to listen.
In America, for instance,
the country is dividing in half with the potential for civil war
because one side does not listen to the other. If one does not
listen how can one even begin to understand what the other side is
talking about or meaning.
Global warming proponents cannot stand to listen to those scientists who are speaking about global cooling yet those who point out that the sun is cycling down do understand and listen to the global warming story.
Just happens that there is no truth to man-made global warming but, do you think a person who believes in global warming wants to hear that?
Vaccine proponents cannot
stand to listen to
the dangers of vaccines and how
many children get hurt by them. And often husbands cannot stand to
listen to their wives and visa versa.
We just assume listening
unless it is obvious that it is not happening. Some people are
natural listeners meaning they listen more than they talk.
...because our minds are
so busy thinking that they leave little space to listen to the
deeper internal spaces of being.
Families are often the
most dangerous places for women and children to be because, you
guessed it, because the poverty of listening eventually breeds
We needed to learn about
love, about listening but so few people think that way. It is sad
but true that we do not touch down on the consequence of not
championing listening as a way of life.
People who talk too much are usually terrible listeners...
When a person says 'yes
but...' to something you say you know they were only listening to
themselves and what they are planning to say next.
In the strictest sense,
what passes for communication between people, in everyday
conversation, in reality, is not authentic communication at all
because signals are not transmitted and received in ways that lead
to the sharing of meaning or feeling.
People get used
to poor communication and
Correction: David W. Augsburger
Mirroring is the quickest
and most direct way to melt the separation that most people feel and
experience with each other.
Learning to listen is
difficult, to say the least for most people because it confronts us
with our egos, which by its very nature does not want to listen to
anything about itself it does not want to know.
The basis of
true thinking is intuition.
Indeed, it is not intellect, but intuition
One never goes
wrong following his feelings.
I don't mean
emotions, I mean feelings,
That's a shame because he said,
Life stripped of feelings is a life stripped of meaning.
A Cave Dive into the heart opens up a normally invisible world; it broadens our awareness and in general seems to know which way to go in life.
What Saint-Exupéry was talking about is the heart's capacity to feel, to intuit, for that is exactly what intuition is, the most refined of fine feelings.
Our intuitive feelings
are navigational beacons that play a crucial role in making those
decisions upon which our destinies depend. Every feeling has its
value and significance. They light up our paths of life.
Politics is an insane
attempt at human organization and it does not matter which
philosophy, which concept or idea politicians follow...