"Wholeness is not achieved
by cutting off a portion of one's being,
but by integration of the contraries."
Balancing these energies can be counterintuitive. Integrating the whole leads to the holistic experience of self-actualization. But it's not easy to achieve. It does not come naturally.
Yet if we can practice
such integration, no matter how counterintuitive, it can be the
source of tremendous power and self-fulfillment.
Grandiosity Over Grandiosity
creatively live with the daemonic
or be violently devoured by it.
We will decide our own destiny.
Let us choose wisely."
The problem isn't the grandiose energy.
The problem is what we do with that energy. Ambition is natural. It's okay that we all want to feel important and that we have the urge to be better.
But when we focus that energy into impractical, pie-in-the-sky delusion, or we use it to falsely inflate ourselves, we prevent ourselves from really improving. Because we are beginning with the assumption that we are already large and great and worthy of attention and adoration.
We are in dialogue with reality rather than out of step with
it. We're on the path toward
self-improvement rather than tripping over our self-embellishments.
but the higher you ascend,
the smaller you appear to the eye of envy.
But most of all they hate those who fly."
Rather than repressing it, rather than 'stewing' in our envious angst, we should use the energy to emulate that which we envy. Feel the envy for what it is, allow it to flare up and inform you, but then surrender it to self-improvement.
Rather than negatively fret in your envy, positively channel that energy into achievable goals. Use the person or persons you envy as goalposts.
Above all, allow the
journey to be the thing.
This will both assuage
your envy and improve upon your particular skillset.
3. Mitfreude Over
means to hurt us and rejoice as it does so.
The lowest animal can imagine the pain of others.
But to imagine the joy of others and to rejoice at it
is the highest privilege of the highest animals."
The lower animal in you wants to wallow in grandiosity, envy, jealousy, and vengefulness. Turn the tables on your lizard-brain's attempt to highjack your higher reasoning by focusing on healthy nonattachment.
When others are happy it benefits us all in the long run.
This is because we are
social creatures living in complex social systems. The more people
who are happy for each other, the less likely people will become
violent toward each other.
There's a kind of sick desperation at the heart of the human condition that gets pleasure out of the failure of others. That's okay. It's perfectly natural.
Recognize this feeling,
honor it, have a laugh at it, but then turn the tables on it through
your "higher animal" by realizing that the plighted human could very
well become you. This transforms it into a kind of self-deprecating
humor which ushers in the Golden Rule, which indirectly ignites
empathy and sympathy for others.
More importantly, it can
lead to a healthier, more progressive, more open-minded evolution
for our young species (higher animal over lower animal).
4. Compersion Over
Someone sober will worry about things going badly.
Let the lover be."
Basically, it's the opposite of jealousy:
Having compersion is being in a state of deep honesty with the human condition regarding the concept of love.
It's a lower-animal/higher-animal balanced approach toward perceiving love. It works down from a cosmic, interdependent, soul-centric, non-ownership perspective of loving holistically, into an independent, ego-centric perspective of loving in the moment, and then back up again.
It's breathing in
holistic love (being love) and breathing out egotistic love (carnal
Because if you truly love
them, and you are coming from a place of being love, then you are
going to want them to be happy whether that happiness comes from
being with you or not.
It's about balance. It's
about being primally aware that we are both independent creatures
with anxious egos and petty jealousies (sexual, carnal animals) and
interdependent creatures with mysterious souls capable of deep
compersion (sensual, holistic, sacred animals).
5. Forgiveness Over
makes the whole world blind."
Yet it's probably the
most important one for us to master if we wish to survive as a
When we're courageous in
the face of fear, for example, we are practicing emotional alchemy.
It's about being proactively engaged in a healthier way while still
honoring our core emotional state.
But, if he doesn't act
courageously despite the feeling of fear, the baby dies. So, he must
first FEEL the fear and then (counter-intuitively) ACT with courage,
in order to do the right thing and save the baby.
Alchemical action is the
thing. Awareness is the thing. Confidence and practice will
eventually lead to providence and brilliance.