by Mateo Sol
In our society, there is a mysterious phenomenon occurring known as
"Soul Loss" arising in all people of all ages, genders, races and
Indigenous people have known about the occurrence of Soul Loss
for millennia, and understand it as the result of an inner
fragmentation caused by unawareness, a traumatic experience, or, an
intense shock to the mind and body.
When we experience Soul Loss, a part of our Soul - or living essence
- 'hides' or shuts away, hindering us from expressing and
experiencing our true potential and wholeness as human beings.
Often times entire
aspects of our psyches are completely blocked out or repressed.
While for many of us Soul Loss may sound uncomfortably familiar,
this experience is usually temporary, and with the proper Soul Work
these lost elements of ourselves can be reintegrated into our lives.
What is Soul
During my introduction
to shamanism and the methods of ritualistic
'soul retrieval', the basic understanding of Soul Loss that was
expressed was that parts of our souls travel off into other realms,
or alternate realities, sometimes being
possessed by spirits.
In the shamanistic
perspective, when these parts of our souls are not recovered, we
can't seem to find inner completion or wholeness.
Before psychology, this explanation was the only way primal cultures
could explain such a common phenomenon in order to find ways to
treat it - and it was immensely effective.
Soul loss is in fact the rule rather than the exception.
As individuals, unless we
Awakened Souls we lose our soulful energy every time we
identify with our ego's, every time we seek to feel whole through,
Aside from our incapacity to feel
whole, when we experience Soul
Loss we begin experiencing feelings of,
We just know something is
missing from our lives - but many of us struggle to discover what
exactly is missing.
To understand Soul Loss
as a loss, or disconnection, from the most vital parts of who we
are, is known in psychology as 'dissociation' - a root of many
Behind Soul Loss
Once we recognize
our souls (or consciousness) as an
energy - anything that creates a reduction in this energy will
To create an imbalance within the psyche is to allow the individual
parts of the personality (e.g. the shadow self, anima, animus, etc.)
to make themselves independent and thus escape the control of the
Psychologist Carl Jung understood this process as relating to our
Jung proposed that our
psychological personalities were composed of different 'complexes'
(or parts of our sense of self), and the primary one of those
responsible for control over all the others was
our 'ego' which is
the mental image we have of ourselves, or what we believe ourselves
Our conscious energy can
be weakened due to one of these 'complexes' escaping the control of
our ego and becoming autonomous, therefore leeching all of our
'psychic libido' energy and creating a psychological imbalance that
shatters our natural wholeness.
So what causes one of our psychological 'complexes' to emancipate
itself and become a tyrannical usurper of consciousness? Often the
answer is that identifying with something harmful, or experiencing a
trauma of some kind creates this phenomenon.
An extreme example might help us understand better:
Imagine that a young
child is molested or abused. In order to cope with the
horrendous experience, the child escapes by disassociating, or
detaching themselves, from the situation.
In the process of
protecting themselves, the child creates various alter ego's, or
entirely different personalities within themselves as a defense
In psychology, this
is treated as "multiple personality disorder" (now known as
Dissociative Identity Disorder). It is easy to
understand how tribal cultures would have perceived this as a
loss of the Soul.
But essentially, psychological disassociation
is nature's way of protecting our physical organism against
intense trauma and loss by blocking these wounding situations
In the end however,
it is our responsibility to protect our spiritual organism, our
But Soul Loss, or
psychological disassociation, is not limited to these extreme cases
and can be found in different degrees in most people:
post traumatic stress
...are all common causes for Soul Loss in our superficial, fast-paced,
materialistic modern societies that are mostly devoid of all sense
A young woman who dreams of being an artist but has to live up to
her parent's expectations of being a doctor will lose a little bit
of her soul, ignoring an essential part of her being.
Or suppose the young
woman does go ahead and follows her dream of being an artist, but
deep down she still depends on her parent's approval.
She then either blames
them to avoid taking responsibility for pursuing her passion, or she
grows low in self-esteem because she is not accepted by them. This
story might sound familiar to you.
Fortunately there are many ways of finding wholeness again.
A lot of the material
Luna and I write for LonerWolf is a form of 'Soul Retrieval', where
we help you to become aware of aspects within yourself that you may
have been ignoring.
We do this by encouraging the development of
Next, you will be able to apply this knowledge of Soul Loss to
Are you experiencing it?
Might Be Experiencing Soul Loss
There are a variety of physical, psychological and spiritual
symptoms pertaining to Soul Loss.
When we experience Soul
Loss - or parts of our soul 'hiding away' or disassociating from us
- the result is a loss in soulful energy, or the very vitality of
This loss of energy
prevents us from living healthy, fulfilling and creative lives.
Sometimes Soul Loss can last for a whole lifetime, resulting in the
development of a self-destructive person who we often refer to as a
"Lost Soul" in our language.
To recover these lost parts of ourselves, and to become balanced,
whole and centered once again, we must first identify the symptoms
of Soul Loss within us.
Below you will find some
of the most common symptoms:
parts of your life have been blocked out.
strong periods of depression.
yourself feel missing or broken.
You experience a
general numbness to life.
of fear or anxiety plague you.
You go through
long periods of insomnia.
You feel lost or
You feel like a
'different person' after a shocking or traumatic life event.
You feel stuck or
incapable of overcoming a certain issue in your life.
disappointed with life.
You feel as
though there are multiple "selves" within you.
You try to escape
by turning to alcohol, drugs, sex, television, or excessive
You feel unworthy
of being loved.
dark night of the soul.
You want to find
your purpose and meaning in life.
You feel like
your daily life is meaningless and task-driven.
You avoid feeling
vulnerable and keep others at a distance.
You long for
wholeness and a sense of belonging.
feel that you're not in control of yourself.
feel mentally or physically fatigued for no medical reason.
You thirst for
authenticity and complete acceptance of yourself.
To be healthy, to feel whole and to live a harmonious life, you must
recover the vital lost parts of yourself by learning to live a life
of balance, authenticity and self-love.
Finding the fragments that are lost and restoring them in your life
is to return to your innate wholeness, to restore the essential
vitality that is your Soul.
To learn to slowly reintegrate the lost
elements of your Soul through the practice of soulwork is to live a
life of mindful, heart-centered and bodily alignment...