by Mateo Sol
are alive who don't seem to care.
they move in the world
But you take
pleasure in the faces
of those who
know they thirst.
those who grip you for survival.
You are not dead
it's not too
late to open your depths
by plunging into
them and drink
in the life that
reveals itself quietly there.
In our journey towards "civilization" we've found more and more ways
to numb and disconnect ourselves from Spirit.
We live and work in gated
communities, shopping centers, and office buildings, with air
conditioned houses and cars, fences, landscapers, animal
controllers, and we spend our leisure time immersed in complex and
absorbing technological worlds.
In order to deal with our soul starvation, we drown ourselves in,
...and other soul-numbing
forms of escapism.
We even suffocate
ourselves in rigid belief systems that moralize and judge
others, promising to alleviate our sense of alienation from life and
But our souls are wiser than all of this. There comes a moment in
our lives where we grow out of the collective values and ways of
living common to our societies.
At a certain point in our
lives, we realize that the values, attitudes, relationships and
beliefs we've held no longer contribute to the development of who we
our authentic selves.
This life crisis,
although painful, provides a vital opportunity for us to begin our
spiritual journeys towards wholeness.
Middle-Life and Deathbed Crisis
In our Western soul-suppressing societies, many of us experience our
"true callings" towards the spiritual journey throughout life, but
most of us never truly "hear" or answer to them.
This spiritual calling presents itself in many ways throughout our
lives such as,
the death of
...and so forth.
But there are three main
milestones that call to us the most loudly.
1 - The first
calling is what we modernly refer to as the "quarter-life
crisis." The quarter-life crisis happens in the first
quarter of life:
we finish high school or university.
At this time in our
lives, we intuitively know that we need to "find" ourselves by
leaving behind our family, friends and hometowns. These people
and places formed our juvenile identities as children and
When I answered this calling, I remembered feeling intense fear
and uncertainty. Saying goodbye to everyone and everything you
love is a very hard task.
2 - The second
great calling presents itself as a "midlife crisis."
This crisis may come
in the form of,
Ultimately, in my
opinion, the midlife crisis comes at a moment where you've
gathered enough wisdom to know that you're not going to live
Most people who experience midlife crises have spent their
entire lives raising a family, or working in a career. They
haven't had the time, or capacity, to ask the important
questions in life.
triggers the question,
"Is this all
3 - The third and
final calling often comes as a deathbed crisis if we
didn't answer the previous two callings.
inevitability of an imminent death
creates such immense turmoil and ego distress, that the light of
consciousness is finally permitted to shine through us.
Many hospice workers
have confirmed this with me.
Although it's better late than never, what a shame that
so many people wait until their last moments to taste truth,
deep insight and peace. Some never even experience it.
We all have to accept our imminent death someday in order to
live life more fully. The sooner we come to terms with this, the
But even if we
receive this calling late in life, we are still blessed to
to the Hurricane
Listening to your calling and accepting your spiritual awakening
comes like a great hurricane.
Suddenly everything you've ever known is ripped away from you and
lost in the tempest. The more you struggle, the more you get thrown
But the moment you
surrender, you stand in the eye of the hurricane peacefully
allowing everything that doesn't serve you to be swept away.
Surrendering is extremely important in two ways.
to let go of your former
limiting self, e.g. all of your beliefs, ambitions, roles,
and perceptions of how you were suppose to be.
surrendering allows you to embody your Soul, that is, all of
your deepest longings, dreams and wildest passions.
It's natural to
experience fear and resistance in the face of the
You'll need to deeply
explore what parts of you are creating resistance. There are several
ways to do this but the simplest way (in my opinion) is to write
down how the fear feels in your body. What images and memories arise
during your process of surrendering?
Writing down what
happened when you were "called" to the spiritual journey is also a
great exercise, for example:
where you were when
it happened, what catalyzed it, how your body felt, what
emotions arose within you, and other significant life events
connected to it.
As you walk into the
heart of your life crisis, you will need to confide in others who
are going through similar experiences.
This can bring a great
sense of emotional alleviation and kinship, and you can find many
online and local groups dedicated to inner awakenings.
Be prepared to experience immense loneliness as well.
After all, surrendering
your former worldview essentially separates you from your habitual
way of life, including your old anchors, comforts and even friends
or family members.
some ways to handle this
people that go through life crises handle their previous
responsibilities and commitments in unhealthy ways.
You don't necessarily
need to quit your job, get divorced, sell your house, abandon
your children, and leave your friends to embark on the spiritual
your journey means becoming more in-tune with
your soul, and exploring what
is no longer supporting your growth and self-exploration.
I like to think of this
period in life as "spiritual simplification."
In other words, what
roles, relationships, activities, and possessions are in the way of
Spirit flowing through you?
4 Signs You've
Had a Spiritual Calling
So how do we know if we're experiencing a deep calling
towards spiritual awakening, or
just a momentary mood swing or desire to escape from our life
Mythologist Joseph Campbell
notes four qualities that accompany
the spiritual calling.
I've found them to be
quite accurate and useful:
It's not an
avoidance of responsibility. Rather than providing you an
opportunity to escape from your problems or burdens, a
spiritual calling feels almost ominous. We all have problems
we'd rather not face in our daily lives, but if you're
experiencing a spiritual calling, you'll somehow sense that
a difficult and overwhelming journey lies ahead of you.
Despite this, there is a profound desire to embark on it.
yet frightening. Many describe the sensation as déjà vu or
familiarity when listening to the voice of their souls.
You feel as
though you've reached the end of your current journey.
Whether you want to realize it or not, you feel as though
your current path has reached a dead end. What once made you
happy and excited now feels empty.
looking for your true calling... It found you. Your calling
was unexpected and unwanted. But now you face the fork in
the road that demands your decision.
Other signs include,
what would happen
if you ignored this calling?
arise within you at the thought, and what do they reveal?
You might also like to
listen to whatever you feel drawn towards, pursue it, and pay
attention to whether it feels intuitively right, or has undertones
of fear beneath.
When it's a spiritual
awakening, a true calling, you'll feel closer to home with every