by Manel Blanco
13 July 2014
from ManelBlanco Website
Women play a crucial role in the evolution of this process, and so do men. We're both equally important. This is not only intuition. Men and women cannot continue co-existing against other.
During the last 8 months I have dedicated most of my efforts to help and empower women; to make them feel appreciated and to show them who they really are, not what and who they've been told to be.
The change in this group of women has been significant and most rewarding for them and for everyone around. I know for a fact that the lives of most of them has improved significantly, as they have gained in self-knowledge and self-esteem.
They're all in contact with each other, and every day
I see signs of this joined effort bringing support, friendship, love
and belief to others. Openness and clarity are crucial in every
As I didn't explain the reasons behind my actions, it is understandable to a certain degree that there was some level of distrust. We don't have to explain ourselves to anyone. We do what we do and we speak with our actions.
This blog post is not intended in any way to offend or to point fingers at anyone.
It is human nature to react to what we don't know or to what we don't understand. I also have to mention that I have felt supported by many men who stood by me. It is however, not my job to teach a woman how to be a woman - this is a woman's job - but to show them how they are supposed to be treated.
My intention was and still is, to show others that
love and friendship between men and women is possible when respect
and admiration is mutual without any personal gain. What I have
received in exchange is much more than what I could have asked for.
The male energy is beautiful in the sense that it is goal oriented and it is the energy required to manifest. There is an abyss in between what this energy represents, what it should be used for and what it has become. Men alone cannot be blamed entirely for our attitudes towards the world, women, children and every other living creature.
Patriarchal society, however, has to answer for centuries of interference with this energy and the current state of the world.
Patriarchal society stands as a moral and energetic entity that has spread an education system and a way of living which is, both, obsolete and immoral, as it shamelessly opposes to a great number of its teachings, and promotes the submission of women through explicit violence, the non-participation of children and the slavery and slaughter of all other living creatures.
It is not kinder to men either, although we live
under the illusion that men are in control and we rule the world. We
do not. Patriarchal society is the grand puppeteer. The end result
is violence against all forms of life.
As part of the seminar, students read paragraphs before discussing the topics covered in the book.
In essence 'Catch-22' is a novel that denounces the absurdity of war. The choice of surreal humor is very deliberate. It does not make sense. Towards the end of the session I asked a young female, Katherine, the only student who had not yet participated to read a paragraph which depicts the consequences of war, but not only this, a clear representation of what the world is today.
The passage describes famine, scarcity, rape, violence, death and portrays a group of desperate men who would do anything, including killing mindlessly in order to cover the tracks of sexual violence so as to escape their reality at the expense of others.
Those portrayed suffering are our elders, women, children and animals. Women are forced into sex, either by rape or prostitution as the only means to survive. Children suffer a different reality of hopelessness and scarcity, having no voice. This is the state of the world today. This world is at war.
As the paragraph I refer to, was long and without
spaces, I asked the student to stop reading in the middle of it
before it turned into torture.
Most of the information that caught my eye, seems to concentrate on what will happen eventually, but never on how to get there.
Things happen by magic when we believe in magic. The fact is, this world does not believe in magic yet. This is an illusion somehow giving false hope that this will happen as a fact without working towards it. To me, this is just another example of beginning to build the house from the roof. In order to change, improve and transform, we have to do the work here and now.
Reading this article will give you insights, but the
only way to experience any transformation is through action. We are
what we do.
There is an intrinsic fear in all males of the
chaotic nature of female energy and of women. The reason is simple,
what we don't understand we fear. What we don't seem to realize is
that by rejecting this all-embracing energy, we are also opposing
our natural ability to lose control, which in turn would allow us to
be free from the inherent human need of control.
Loss of control would allow you to expand personally and be free from the limitations imposed by the norms and education of patriarchal society. We do not harm anyone in the process. In order to restore the female energy, men have to step back. The role of men is not to rule, but to allow women to flourish.
Control is fear; allowing is love. Women are the physical representation of the female energy. In one sentence, they bring color, creativity, passion and dance; they're more in touch with the soul and their feelings.
Through feeling is how we live and heal. Most men are
not in touch with their feelings. The role of men is to support and
allow, both women and the female energy in the world. What we allow
blossoms. What we do instead is to suffocate women, not
realizing that what we do to others we do to ourselves, and that in
turn, we are also suffocating ourselves.
The reason why mankind suffers is due to the use of our energy to stop and coerce the expression of others.
Secondly, we are also inviting the role of women to
adhere into the lower states of collective consciousness that
prolongs pain and suffering in the world. Let's understand this new
role as a learning playground in which our souls play and dance
together. This is the true role of men in the world, to allow and
support women without forgetting ourselves. The benefits that men
will receive in exchange are beyond what we can possibly ask for.
I only helped her when she was in need. I didn't ask her to do the amount of work she does; she offered instead. Not only this, she encouraged me to do it. She could see the intention, the talent and the potential.
By allowing and supporting her, she gave me a vehicle
for expansion and creativity which is proving to be an extraordinary
ground for my learning, as well as for helping others. And for this
I am very grateful. Too often we don't see that what we do for
others we also do for ourselves.
We do this together or we don't do it at all. The future of humanity lies in understanding new ways of cooperation, love and respect in which we all are equals.
Let's add children to this equation too.
One aim. One intention: Love. Freedom.
There are no doubts that the role of women in society
has to change so as to begin to express their creativity towards the
integration of all. If you are a man and want the women in your life
to be safe and protected from the madness and violence of men, begin
by treating every woman as if she was your mother, your sister or
your girlfriend. What we allow will continue and eventually will
come back to us.
There is no longer place in the world for pejorative terms against anyone, nor violence, nor the rape of another human being or animal. It is the duty of each individual to stop this and to stop it now. Rape and violence is not something that happens to others, it happens to all of us.
Next time you are in a situation in which there are men using stereotypes, pejorative terms or foul language against women, don't stay silent and feel the energy of your actions.
These men conversations at the local pub or bar, only serve to train the psyche to elaborate the wrong image of another human being and how they will eventually behave towards them. When we intervene to stop actions and words against others we begin to make a difference by creating awareness.
It might not make you friends at the beginning, but
as you stand by your beliefs and actions you will begin to
transform, gain strength, confidence and become the person you
always knew you could be if you're not already. Ask yourself, what
kind of man you want to be and how you want to be remembered.
What I've become is what I gave first to the world, and yes, before I became who I am, I also made mistakes and I continue learning.
Today I have the respect I've given. The impression
this first man left in me made me revoke the term man and to
identify myself as one, until I realized that being a man is not
what other men do, but what and who I choose to be. We all decide
what kind of man we want to be. It is a personal choice.
This is a way of living, not something we do today and forget tomorrow when it's convenient.
What you give, you receive, and the rewards are
greater than anything you could ever imagine. However insignificant
you may think your actions are, you are beginning a chain reaction.
There are more steps we can follow to restore the male energy and
allow the female energy in men, but let's begin for now to build the
house from the foundation.
As this is a very broad topic in further blog posts I
will cover more specific and positive steps to follow in order to
achieve this goal. The key words to live by now are these: kindness,
respect and love. It is a very simple equation for a great outcome.
Add responsibility, fun and humbleness.