by Michael Forrester
There is a constant need to insult or criticize content which disagrees with their own sense of truth.
Although confronting fear won't always
make it go away, many researchers suggest that people must alter
memory-driven negative attitudes about feared objects, events or the
unknown to overcome the fear itself, allowing open-mindedness and
multiple perspectives to override negativity.
Physiological markers such as heart rate
and anticipatory anxiety always increase when measurements are taken
in people whose attitudes remain negative.
For example, many people around the world devoted to their religion absolutely fear atheists. They refuse to relate to their position. They will not even conceive the right of atheists to their own opinions and feel extremely threatened by any content promoting the principles of atheism.
The same can be true if we reverse the two roles. Neither position will ever advance the other if each can only think negatively about the other.
Negative reactions to the unknown instills a sense of weakness in our character, specifically a lack of strength in our own convictions.
When people have the need to strongly chastise others
for their opinions and information they present, it shows a genuine
deficit of attributes related to confidence about our own belief
systems, morals and values.
To change the likelihood that negativity or fear is automatically activated when one is placed in a specific situation, we must positively view the opinions of others as valid regardless of our own perception.
If somebody see's the sky as "green"
instead of "blue", instead of immediately declaring their state of
mind as incorrect, we can think about how interesting it is that
they see the sky "green" and perhaps ask ourselves why their
perspective differs so greatly from our own.
Why? Because they know they are entitled to those views.
They donít engage them and they certainly donít wish to begin any type of conflict with those who think differently than they do. Everybody has their own path in life and their learning is unique, allowing them to experience that uniqueness and growth at the deepest levels of their being.
views are no more correct or incorrect than any other, especially
since truth is 360 degrees and all perception defines our reality.
The same words can both positively and negatively affect millions of people.
The difference lies in how we perceive
another's reality to be different from our own. We are all very much
the same - just experiencing and learning at different rates. No one
rate of learning is more superior or advanced than another, just
We attract every person in our life
for a reason - to show us who we are. If you think everybody in your
life is around you by coincidence, you're not paying attention to
the very valuable lessons they are teaching you.
In the end, would you rather be right, or would you rather be kind?
Be kind, with love and compassion, but most of all, allow others to just be. I can guarantee that if you practice this, you will be amazed at how quickly your outlook on your experiences will change.
Most of all, you will never see information as a threat again.